Well, we made a big decision this morning. Mom doesn't know it yet, and may never realize it actually. There will be two paramedics coming to 6 Aloha Drive in Hiawatha, IA, to transport her out of her house for the last time. I can guarantee you that this house will NEVER be the same......
We determined, along with hospice staff's recommendation, that it would be best for mom to get the professional care needed for her last few days. Care that her family cannot properly provide. We did our best. She will be going to a beautiful hospice house to be cared for, which will allow us just to be family and not full care givers.
My dad knows that once that vehicle pulls up, his house will be a much lonelier place. However, we know that this is the best decision for all concerned and he is at peace.
But mom has shown her heart and spirit again, even in her hallucinations...... last night she saw a little kitten on the ceiling. Not too scary right? That was mom. No dark side, all light. She was a delight to be around and always brightened the room with her quick laugh. I guess we'll need to remember that laugh in our memories, as it probably won't surface again......
Thank you for keeping her and my father in your prayers. God has been faithful and we know will continue to be until the end. God bless.
8 comments:
Terry: You all have made a good decision. We had to do that for my Dad and it was less stress for all of us to "just visit" and not have to wonder if we were doing the right thing for him.
We will keep praying for all of you.
Terry, what a beautiful loving spirit you have dealing with this most difficult situation. I’m sure the decision you all made this morning was heart-wrenching, but necessary. Having had two recent experiences dealing with Hospice for two very special people in my life, I was greatly impressed with their loving compassion and care. I came away from spending days with those special Hospice caretakers with a more "at peace and enlightened view" of the reality of passing from this life on earth to eternity in Heaven. I felt they were a “God-send” and my prayers are that you will be blessed with similar “angels here on earth” to ease the helplessness and hurting each of you are feeling. May God continue to comfort you and give you strength during this very tough and trying time.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings . . . you and your family are continually in my prayers.
Marilyn (Fry) Sears
Sumter, SC
Terry...thanks for sharing your posts with everyone. Your mom is truly one-of-a kind and I know God has a special place reserved just for her! I feel blessed to have been able to have her & your father in my life! All my best to your entire family!
Blessings,
Val
Terry,
Just want you to know that we are continously praying for your family. It's comforting to know that God is at your side while going through this very difficult time. I'm so glad you are getting to spend these moments with your family and especially your mom. They will always be treasured.
I know that was a tough decision. But will probably help with the stress. Thanks for your updates. My heart is with you.
Valerie (Moser) Keenan
I know that decision had to be so hard. I pray for your family as you are "just family" to comfort one another. I pray for peace for all of you and for your mother as she approaches the gates of heaven. We love you!
Terry,
I was so grateful to see your blog and read your updates and thoughts of the past few days. I so wanted to visit your mom, but know she really can't take visitors. I know the tremendous sorrow of the anticipated loss (mom and my husband), but I also know the great peace and assurance you are experiencing by the power of the Spirit knowing if she's healed in heaven, she'll just be moving to another address, and you'll see her there. Please give my love to your mom, and remember Terry - her mind may not comprehend but her spirit is alive and well. I'm sure she'd love to hear your beautiful voice sing one of her favorite songs to God. Mom always responded when I sang or spoke of Jesus, and read the Word. I'm sure your mom does too. God bless you Terry - love to you, your dad and brothers. Standing for you all in prayer.
Lorri (Teufel) Barnes
I love the comment about encouraging you to sing and read scripture. One of the last things my parents wanted us to do for them was sing the old hymns. Believe me when I say that we aren't singers...but we attempted ...and it brought such peace and comfort to both of them. I encourage you to sing to your Mom and tell her what a great Mom she has been...you'll never have to look back....so glad your family has been given this time to prepare. Praying for your guys!
Michelle
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